HuH... Responsibility???

We're adults... when did that happen? And how do we make it stop?

RESPONSIBILITY - It really does suck and it doesn't seem to go away...

Do you ever look back and wonder 'how did I get here'? From security and a worry free childhood smack dab into the middle of bills, and deadlines and being where you say you will be when you say you will be there. What???

As a child I had no concept of time, or of being late or on time... my mother had me out the door and I was on time for everything and well I thought it was all me! It was just the way it happened. Wow it was really all my mom because as an adult it seems so much harder to make time to be somewhere or go anywhere. Maybe its lifestyle choices like work and living in the city with traffic and talking on the phone too much that makes us late for things. Usually when you say to someone you will be there in half an hour you really do mean it... but then somewhere in that half hour everything happens or nothing happens and either way your late!

And what about bills? Who came up with that absurd idea? I didn't even know what one was till I was 18 and started getting those annoying letters in the mail telling me I owed. OWED? Whats that and can't someone else just take care of it for me? Funny eh? Having the money for them is only half the battle... its making the time to pay them - you know 'getting around to it'.

Errands are a crappy concept too... mailing letters, getting groceries, going to the dentist and bank, making small house repairs or trying to find someone to help. But as adults this is what we have to do - cause no one else will do it for us!

And inbetween all this working, bill paying, errand running and trying to be on time... we are supposed to find 'time for ourselves'. Sometimes I think most people don't even know what they like to do - you know as hobbies. They never have time to figure it out. We live in this super fast busy world and it never seems to slow down for two seconds! Making us late, forcing procrastination, sucking our energy from us... How can we be responsible adults and still slow down and just have fun?

If I had it my way someone would be pushing me out the door, chaffeuring me around and getting me where I need to go on time. Organizing my day so everything fits and seeing to it that I have some food and play time too! Just kidding... that is childhood and damn it was good. The real answer.... I'm not sure I have figured it out, but this is what I've got so far:

Make a point of having a 'Sunday' every week where you stay in - no errands and no plans.

Turn your phone off every now and then... its very hard trust me - I haven't done it since I was camping and my phone was out of service!

Try and live for today and don't waste all day everyday scrambling to get everything done... cause there will always be more.

Take care of your family and friends cause when life and responsiblity just seems to be too much... they can take you back to your childhood for a little bit and take a little of the weight off your shoulders.

Say No sometimes to plans and taking on too much... it feels good to know you are in control of your time and can spend it how you choose. I find I am on time for things more when its something I actually want to be doing!

Check the mail regularly and don't hide it in a drawer... I used to do that and honestly 'out of sight, out of mind' doesn't last forever!

Solve problems as they come and never expect life to be problem free. Once you accept the fact that adulthood is constant problem solving the happier you will be!

So these are a bunch of things I have been trying desperately to work on. They are all from my own personal experience (not just quotes I found) and although I am here bitching about responsiblily, adulthood has its perks too. However I think I will save that for another entry!